When I first started learning about the concept of “Alignment Before Action,” I found myself wanting to know exactly what it was that other people were doing to get into alignment, even though I understood it was unique to each person and what specifically brought them joy.
I was most intrigued by this practice when I heard about Jess Lively’s rituals, which included things like eating chocolate for breakfast, drinking fancy crystal-infused sparkling water, designing and creating her dream home, spending long amounts of time meditating and reading books on consciousness and Quantum Mechanics, highlighting them and taking notes, and getting into such a good place before approaching any “work” that needed to get done that day. Sounds totally extra and over-the-top right? I was skeptical about this seemingly extravagant lifestyle until I heard her talk more about the outcomes. The results were days that ended up being 80% alignment time, and 20% working time, but produced high amounts of productivity, increased income, and work that was resonating with thousands of people and helping others create greater joy as well. So to say the least, this whole idea really excited and resonated with me.
As a follow-up to this post (on how this practice has greatly increased the joy and magic levels in my life), here is a somewhat abridged list of the practical things I do or think about to help get me in the best place possible each day:
Getting a good night’s sleep
Having a clean room
Burning a good smelling candle
Making myself a yummy breakfast and treating myself to a little bit of coffee
Time in the morning to meditate, pray, read, write
Rampages of gratitude (will expand on this in the future)
Thinking of my friendship with Kelsey, our texts to each other, quoting the Office together
My friendship with Jonathan and Garrett, how we continuously and enthusiastically affirm one another
My friendship with Jessie, our high vibe conversations, Polos back and forth
Walks around the island
Listening to Jess Lively’s podcast
Listening to My Favorite Murder
Reading a good book
Making myself my own happy hour, eating it on the patio
When my fridge is clean, organized and filled with yummy drinks and healthy foods
Being in a new city or place alone
Putting my phone on airplane mode for awhile
Writing. Especially when it flows easily
Listening to my high vibes playlist (will share soon)
Dancing to my favorite songs
Dancing with friends
Taking a Grit (spin) class
Taking a yoga class
Texts and IG comments from my Mom
Meditating on how very loved I am and picturing it filling my entire body
Thinking about my future partner
Having bedtime routines
Having skincare routines
A calming drink before bed
Parks and Rec
Doing exactly what I’m in the mood for (listening to my intuition)
Wearing an outfit that makes me happy
Having my hair in a high bun
Wearing red lipstick
Wearing something with sequins
Thinking about all the abundance in my life
Having my nails done in a color that I love
Wearing my jangle bracelets
Looking at the ring I bought myself
I hope this list helps lend inspiration or guidance to ways you can fill your day with joy-filled practices. As you can see, some are as simple as listening to one song that makes me happy, or choosing to wear one piece of clothing I know I always feel good in. Others take a little more time or emotional investment. But each of them play a helpful and integral role in getting me into the best possible place I can be, so that I can bring the world the most whole, happy and sparkling self I can offer.
If this type of practice isn’t something you’re already incorporating into your life, even in a small way, I would recommend starting by doing what I just did – write out a list. Take some time to get still and think about the times in life that you are the absolute happiest and filled to the brim. What are you doing? What are you thinking about? Who are you with? What are you wearing? What are you listening to? Where are you? What’s surrounding you? What actions make you feel like you’re “treating yourself?” Or living your best life? Pay attention to these thoughts and what your intuition tells you, and then write it all down. And start to plan on how you can incorporate these things into your life, or start the practice of drawing on each of them when you feel yourself getting in a low place. Think of it as your happy toolbox!
There’s one last thing I want to say about this practice. A common pushback I hear expressed by others, or a critique I’ve even held at times about this type of living (“live your best life” / “if it’s not a hell yes it’s a no” / “do what brings you joy” / etc.) is that if we were left to our devices and were told to just do whatever makes us happy and reject everything else, wouldn’t we turn into selfish, constant cake- (or in my case, pasta-) consuming monsters who sit in a jacuzzi all day online shopping from their smart phone while guzzling down wine? Well I mean maybe for a day, if that’s what your soul really needed. But no, you wouldn’t. Because here’s the crucial difference: I truly believe that when listening for the deep-down voice of what we need in any given moment, and tapping into the hard-wired ways in which we were created to experience joy and pleasure, that we would only do things that are in the best possible interest of ourselves and others, and that all lead towards the highest good for everyone involved. So for example, if your favorite food is cheesy pasta, there may be some days that a big bowl of that is exactly what you need to bring comfort and joy to your body. But your body also knows that eating it for 2 meals a day, every day that week is probably not in its best interest, so I doubt that’s what your Inner Voice would tell you to do if you really stopped and asked it. Same goes for neglecting certain chores – you may want to say “hell no” to vacuuming the living room, and some days that’s 100% ok, but you also know that when you do, you will be caring for your home and providing more peace and joy for yourself and others whenever that room is inhabited.
So long story short, I don’t believe this is about living a life of self-indulgence and only chasing after things that cater to our base desires. Rather, I believe this is a holy (and sometimes difficult) practice that asks us to tap into our deepest crevices that have been individually hard-wired by a loving, divine, and all-knowing Source in order to live sweetly into the things that allow us to live our most whole and full lives, inevitably spilling out this pure joy and the inspired insights we glean onto everyone we come into contact with. And that is one of my deepest hopes for humanity: that we would all have clear insight into our inner joy tanks, and have the permission and tools to access them whenever they’re needed.